Holidays are over!
I took a break from writing, longer than anticipated…
The past few weeks have been quite overwhelming, for the most part. You know the expression “when it rains, it pours”? Well I was soaked to the bone.
I recently returned from a big trip with my three young children aged 6 and under. It was quite a picture!
I will save that story for another post.
Holidays are over indeed and so back to school, back to work, back home or simply back to life as we know it.
Beside being the month that starts a new year, January is also the month dedicated to life resolutions for most people.
NEW YEAR – NEW YOU!
Everything is going to change for you! Whatever you failed last year, you will do better this year and finally be happy… about your weight, your relationships, your job, your finances, about your life.
Everything will be just fine! Everything…
Life resolutions or mere dreams?
Only you know the truth.
Would you be surprised if I told you I stopped making resolutions for each new year celebration?
I am certainly not one to jump on a band wagon just because everyone else is. However, talking about new year’s resolutions, I used to be on that wagon and had my list of life resolutions that were supposed to allow me to improve my personal life so I can feel happier.
Years went by and interestingly the same resolutions kept showing up on the list…
First time, you give yourself a break because we are all busy and we did not have the time to do this or that. We then think it can be done later because we will have plenty of time to take care of this or that once… Once what?
Once we stop putting off the things that really matter for our own well-being and start taking the time to make them happen. Truth is, there is always stuff to do, urgent business to take care of, expectations to meet, feelings of guilt to run away from, etc.
Every time I hear about somebody’s death, I am reminded that life is short and precious.
For those of us who are lucky to be mentally and physically healthy, it is important to recognize that we are indeed lucky and to enjoy our lives while we have it.
Death has unfortunately been a recurring theme around me, particularly the end of last year and the beginning of this year… some sudden, others expected and it does not make the news easier to swallow though.
Often we get thinking of all the things we wish we had done or said when confronted with our own death or a close one. Why?
My take on this is that we are too busy and too often wait until tragic events happen to remember the essentials of life. I personally took life for granted for the longest time.
What is the point of making life resolutions if we are not giving them the space and time they deserve in our lives?
Dreams are free… Anybody can dream… Not all can live those dreams and see them through.
We are not all born equal or under a lucky star, yet we are all born with the right to dream and shall I even dare to say the right to be happy.
If you can’t see the bright side of life when the sun is shining, it will be much harder when it gets dark… (I am full of quotes here!)
I stopped talking about life resolutions and adopted the language of life commitments instead.
For instance, being healthy and spending more quality time with my family and friends are not just a one-year deal… I want that all the time – guilt-free, every year I get to live.
Therefore, when time comes to make choices, I refer to my own life commitments and I find it helpful to decide if what I am about to do is serving that purpose.
Another way to screen what life throws at me and decide where my priorities are when it comes to life commitments or dreams… I ask myself the three following questions.
If I don’t take action to live my dreams or fulfill my life commitments…
1. Can or will someone else do it for me?
2. Can I look back and be happy anyway feeling no regrets?
3. Can I continue to grow personally?
If the answers are NO to these questions, well time to get going and act upon it.
Life does not wait for more time to happen…
What about you? Any life resolutions you adopted you care to share? If you do, please let me know how you make out with those.
Au revoir for now.